You’re Building People not Robots

Countless numbers of leaders gain much of their education from on-the-job training, where they watch and mimic the behaviors of others. This has its merits, but the serious downside is that the leaders in the making aren’t necessarily learning how their mentoring leader thinks. – Paid To Think

When I was landscaping the one issue, my boss always had with me was that I asked why. I wanted to know why we did so much of the job in the way we did it.

My boss just wanted to give directions and have his people do work. No interaction past following orders.

So many bosses are like this. It’s effective at the moment to just have people follow orders.

But it means they always have to come back to you for orders. They can’t, in fact, they’re actively encouraged to not, think on their own.

Invite the why questions and explain the reasons. You’re building people, not robots.

Have an awesome day


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On Being Alone

We need to be alone because life among other people unfolds too quickly. The pace is relentless: the jokes, the insights, the excitements. There can sometimes be enough in five minutes of social life to take up an hour of analysis. – The Need to Be Alone

How much thinking time do you have in your week? Time to plan your business divorced from any distractions of note.

A walk in the woods because outside is so much better for you than the city. That walk is just what we need when we are overwhelmed.

If you don’t have time in your week to be quite and think, then it’s time to start building a business that allows it.

Ask yourself “What would it take to have time to get quite in my business?”

Then start taking the steps needed to put the answer to that question into practice.

Have an awesome day


PS: If you’re struggling, check out BootCamp to get things on track.

Thanks to Patrick for finding the quote at the top.

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Save Yourself The Pain Just Don’t Do Anything

You can save yourself the pain of failing by…Never. Doing. Anything. – From Frustrated To Frickin Awesome

Failure sucks.

In the middle of 2017, I failed huge as a parent. My oldest kid was acting her age, and I lost it.

I yelled and scared her. I had little control over how I reacted. In the moment I felt bad, but didn’t think much more about it.

Then two days later, she did some little thing, and I was instantly livid. Not just annoyed, but blowing my top angry.

Kids have a great way of exposing our weaknesses. They owe us nothing at all and demand so much of us.

Pain Teaches

Realizing that I needed better parenting tools I read No Drama Discipline and I can say that things started going better that very week.

Months later, I have better tools to use when parenting. I’m a better parent and a better husband.

Not all pain is at home though. A number of years ago I released a product called “Hope is Not a Strategy”. I had big plans for it. It would rocket me into the realm of the great ‘internet people’, and my income would be set.

Nobody bought it at all.

It was a failure in every sense of the word, but I learned from it.

The Niche Product

From the failure of Hope is Not a Strategy, I learned that I didn’t need to do all that much work up front. When I released Finding and Marketing to Your Niche, I wrote the book and left everything else until I had a sale.

Initially, I never did the videos because no one purchased the $299 version of the product. A year later when someone did, I didn’t have the videos, but I did have The 8 Week Business BootCamp which had a section on your niche, so I offered them access to those videos instead.

They happily took it, and I still didn’t record the videos. That was just a few days ago; I’m not sure if I’ll record the videos or remove them from the sales page. Likely, I’ll leave the decision until I have more than a single person that purchases the expensive version of Finding and Marketing To Your Niche.

We too often try to avoid anything hard. Pain is viewed as something that’s bad. It’s the opposite of Cal Newport’s Any Benefit mindset.

Instead of finding any small benefit and thus justifying the use of a social network, we find any possible pain and avoid the entire action at all costs.

In Perennial Seller, Ryan Holiday says:

The fact is, most people are so terrified of what an outside voice might say that they forgo opportunities to improve what they are making. – Perennial Seller

We figure whatever idea we have is amazing and everyone else will fall into place.

It won’t. It’s likely that it will fall flat unless you put yourself through some pain and get feedback to refine the work.

Any amazing endeavour will have points where it feels like you won’t succeed. Anyone can do easy stuff. Only those that are willing to endure pain will do amazing work that everyone talks about.

What type of work are you going to do?

Have an awesome day?


PS: To dive deeper into the pain that it takes to birth awesome products, read Perennial Seller by Ryan Holiday or my review of it.

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Future Positive Thinking

A few weeks ago I went to a talk with Ryan Walter. He talked all about thinking and four main modes of thinking.

  • Past Positive
  • Past Negative
  • Future Positive
  • Future Negative

Really all of these states of thinking are mostly fine. They’re going to happen, and some of the ones that make look bad at first, aren’t.

Take Past Negative as an example. The way we learn is by looking at the things we’ve done in the past that were less than ideal and changing ourselves.

The only one we want to really watch out for is Future Negative. This is the mindset that says we won’t amount to much. That we’re not awesome and that’s not true.

I’m not sure about you, but I fall into Future Negative thinking a lot lately. Thinking that as tough as things are sometimes, they’ll stay that way.

While I know that’s not true, it’s hard to live in that in the moment.

What I’ve done to kick my own ass is create a set of ‘awesome notes’ that I turn too when I get stuck in Future Negative thinking. Notes that remind me how I’ve helped people.

Like when I helped Amanda land her first contract at $10k/month when they didn’t want a contractor at all but an employee.

Keep the notes of awesome close at hand and use it regularly.

Have an awesome day!


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In Love with The Dream

Many people are only in love with the results of running a business. At least the perceived results.

They don’t want to go get clients. They don’t want to enter receipts. They don’t want to learn how to budget.

They just want some magical freedom that comes at the end of doing all those things well.

For years.

In the face of failure.

When you can barely pay the bills.

You better be in love with all that painful stuff. You better be willing to do the hard work.

Because that is what most of business is. Hard work with a sprinkle of freedom.

Have an awesome day!


PS: If your ready to do the hard work, let’s talk and get you started.

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It’s Time to Find a New Room!!

If you’re the smartest person in the room, find a new room.

Don’t sit around with the same people lamenting your business. Find someone or many people that are successful and hang out with them.

If it costs you some money to get access, do it.

If you’re the smartest person in the room, you’re going to stagnate.

Have an awesome day!


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The Big Brash Leader Lie!

It’s a faulty assumption that you need to be big/loud/obvious to lead an organization. This faulty assumption is brought on because that’s the story websites love.

The founder that was brash, a bit harsh, and oh so brilliant. Hey, Steve Jobs.

Far more of the successful teams out there are run by a quiet manager that wakes up every day asking how they can make their team look awesome today. How can they give their team something they each enjoy to work on and get the roadblocks out of the way.

Forget the big brash idea of a leader. Go for the quiet leader that builds the team they have.

Have an awesome day!


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